Has anyone here actually been audited because of a similar living situation? I'm wondering if this is something the IRS actively looks for or if we're all being paranoid.

This is such a common situation these days with housing costs being what they are! I went through something very similar about 3 years ago when my ex and I had to share our old house again for financial reasons. One thing that really helped us was establishing a clear "household expense sharing agreement" right from the start. We literally split everything 50/50 and kept receipts for EVERYTHING - utilities, groceries, household supplies, even toilet paper. It sounds tedious but it made tax time so much cleaner. Since you mentioned you maintain completely separate finances, I'd suggest opening a joint checking account specifically for shared household expenses only. Each of you contributes exactly half each month, and all shared bills come from that account. This creates a crystal clear paper trail that shows you're truly splitting costs equally, which supports your single filing status. Also, definitely keep that alternating dependent claim arrangement from your divorce decree. The IRS respects those agreements as long as the non-claiming parent signs Form 8332 each year. Having that consistency actually works in your favor because it shows you're following an established legal arrangement, not trying to game the system.

This is such a helpful thread! I'm dealing with something similar for my father who has a pension from the Netherlands. One thing I learned that might help - make sure to check if the Belgian pension system has any tax withholding agreements that could affect how much tax is withheld at the source. In our case, we had to file a form with the Dutch tax authorities to reduce the withholding rate based on the treaty benefits. This made the foreign tax credit calculation much cleaner on the US side. Belgium might have similar procedures that could simplify your mother-in-law's situation. Also, definitely keep detailed records of all the Belgian tax documents - not just for the current year but going back a few years. The IRS sometimes asks for historical documentation when they see foreign income reported for the first time, especially with older taxpayers who might have had unreported foreign income in previous years.

Great question about the Belgian pension! I went through this exact situation with my mother who has a pension from Ireland. A few key points that might help: First, yes, she absolutely needs to report the full pension amount on her US tax return regardless of the treaty - the IRS requires all worldwide income to be reported. But the good news is the US-Belgium tax treaty will protect her from double taxation through the foreign tax credit system. One thing I discovered that wasn't immediately obvious - make sure you're converting the pension amounts using the correct exchange rates for tax purposes. The IRS has specific guidance on this, and using the wrong conversion method can cause headaches later. Also, since she's been in the US for 3 years, double-check that she properly reported this pension income for the previous tax years too. If this is the first time it's being reported, you might want to consider filing amended returns for prior years to avoid any potential issues down the road. The TurboTax foreign income section should handle most of this, but don't hesitate to consult with a tax professional who specializes in international taxation if the situation feels complex. Belgian pensions can have some unique treaty provisions that general tax software might not catch.

If your cousin ever resurfaces and pays you back after you've claimed the bad debt deduction, you'll need to report that as income in the year you receive it (to the extent you received a tax benefit from the deduction). Just something to keep in mind.

I'm dealing with a similar situation right now - lent money to a family member who disappeared. One thing I learned from my tax preparer is that you should also keep records of any attempts to locate the debtor, not just collect from them. Screenshots of failed texts, returned mail, even notes about conversations with mutual contacts can help establish that the debt truly became uncollectible. Also, make sure you have clear documentation that this was actually a loan and not a gift. Bank records showing the transfer, any written agreements (even informal ones), and evidence that repayment was expected are crucial. The IRS sometimes challenges these deductions by claiming they were really gifts to family members. Having that promissory note you mentioned puts you in a much better position than most people in this situation.

Does anyone know if doing this larger withholding instead of quarterlies could trigger any red flags with the IRS? I'm paranoid about audits.

This is exactly what I do! I have a W-2 job making about $75k and do freelance graphic design on the side. Instead of dealing with quarterly payments, I just calculated my expected self-employment tax and income tax on the side income and divided it by my remaining pay periods. Then I put that extra amount on line 4(c) of my W-4. The math is pretty straightforward once you get the hang of it. For your $15k profit, you're looking at roughly $2,118 in self-employment tax (15.3% × $15k × 0.9235) plus income tax at your marginal rate. Since you're making $82k, you're likely in the 22% bracket, so that's another $3,300 in income tax on your side income. One tip: I always round up slightly when calculating my extra withholding. I'd rather get a small refund than owe money at tax time. The peace of mind is totally worth it, and you avoid any potential underpayment penalties.

has anyone compared the freetaxusa pdf import with h&r block's import? i've been using h&r block for years but their prices keep going up every year. wondering if it's worth switching just for the cost savings.

I made the switch from TaxAct to FreeTaxUSA this year too and had almost the exact same experience! The PDF import really is a game-changer - I was dreading having to re-enter all my investment accounts and rental property details, but it pulled in way more than I expected. One tip for anyone considering the switch: make sure you have your complete tax return PDF saved, not just the summary pages. I initially tried importing a shortened version and it only got basic info, but when I uploaded the full return with all schedules attached, it grabbed practically everything including my Schedule E rental details and all the 1099 information. The interface being cleaner is such a bonus too. I didn't realize how cluttered and confusing TaxAct had become until I experienced FreeTaxUSA's straightforward workflow. Definitely wish I'd switched sooner!