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One thing nobody has mentioned - marriage provides significant LEGAL protections that have financial implications beyond just annual tax returns. If something happens to one partner, the surviving spouse has automatic inheritance rights, Social Security survivor benefits, pension benefits, and healthcare decision-making authority. As an estate planning attorney, I've seen unmarried couples face MASSIVE tax hits when one partner passes away. With married couples, there's unlimited spousal transfer at death with no tax implications. For unmarried couples, estate taxes can kick in and the surviving partner might have to PAY TAX just to keep living in their own home. Also, health insurance is usually cheaper for married couples, and you get spousal Social Security benefits that unmarried partners don't. These aren't reflected in your annual tax return but are huge financial benefits of marriage.
This is actually super helpful context I hadn't considered. Are there ways to mitigate these issues without marriage? Like through proper estate planning, etc? Or are some benefits (like Social Security) only available to legally married couples regardless of what legal documents we put in place?
Some benefits can be partially replicated through careful estate planning - wills, trusts, powers of attorney, healthcare directives, etc. However, certain benefits are ONLY available to legally married couples regardless of any legal documents: Social Security spousal and survivor benefits are only for married couples - this can be worth hundreds of thousands of dollars over a lifetime. Federal estate tax exemptions for spouses cannot be replicated for unmarried partners. Qualified retirement accounts (like 401ks) have spousal protections and inheritance advantages that don't apply to non-spouse beneficiaries. One workaround some clients use is "strategic marriage" - getting legally married for these benefits while maintaining separate finances if desired. Remember that marriage is ultimately a legal and financial contract with the government, separate from any religious or personal commitment.
Has anyone run scenarios with kids in the mix? My partner and I make similar income to OP ($125k me, $95k them) and we're trying to figure out if getting married would help once we have our baby next year. The child tax credits and dependent care credits seem really confusing when you're unmarried.
With kids, the calculation often tilts more in favor of marriage. For unmarried parents, only one person can claim the child as a dependent and take the child tax credit (worth up to $2,000 per child). If married filing jointly, you get the full benefit regardless of which parent provides more support. Also important - the child and dependent care credit phases out at higher income levels, but the threshold is higher for married couples than singles. For 2025, the credit starts phasing out at $125,000 for all filing statuses, but the rate of phase-out is more favorable for married couples.
As someone who works in corporate accounting (not tax advice), I've seen this happen before. When companies restructure, especially partnerships like LLPs, they sometimes change how they classify certain types of compensation. For example, if they previously gave you some benefits tax-free, they might now include them as taxable compensation. Or they could have shifted from bonuses (which have different withholding rules) to regular salary. These changes are usually legal but definitely impact your withholding. Ask for an explanation of any recent compensation structure changes. Get it in writing if possible. And check your W-4 form - sometimes during restructuring, HR "resets" everyone's withholding elections to the default, which often withholds more than necessary.
Would these kinds of changes typically be communicated to employees beforehand? My company did something similar and nobody told us anything until we all noticed smaller paychecks.
Ethically and professionally, yes - these changes should absolutely be communicated in advance. However, there's no legal requirement for employers to notify employees about changing how they structure compensation, as long as they're properly reporting everything on your W-2 and following tax laws. Some companies deliberately avoid announcing changes that will effectively reduce take-home pay because they know it will cause employee dissatisfaction. It's a short-sighted approach that usually backfires when everyone notices anyway and feels deliberately misled. If this happened without communication, it might not be illegal, but it's definitely a red flag about company culture and how they value transparency with employees.
Has anyone ever successfully negotiated with their employer after discovering something like this? Our small accounting firm increased our withholdings this year after a "restructuring" and when I asked about it, they just said "that's how taxes work now." I know that's BS but don't know what to do.
I actually did! I printed out my paystubs from before and after the change, highlighted the differences, and requested a meeting with the managing partner. I explained that the increased withholding effectively canceled out my recent raise, and asked if they would consider a compensation adjustment to offset the change. They initially said no, but when three other employees made similar requests within the same week, they announced an across-the-board 3% "market adjustment" the following month. Sometimes they just need to realize that people are paying attention.
That's really helpful to know! I've been feeling so powerless about the whole situation. I'm going to gather my documentation and see if any colleagues want to approach management together. Strength in numbers makes sense in this situation. Did you have to get confrontational or was it more effective to just present the facts clearly and ask for a solution?
Just wanted to add a tip for anyone planning to buy I-bonds with their tax refund next year. There are actually TWO ways to do this: 1. Direct deposit to Treasury Direct (which requires the specific account formatting others mentioned) 2. Request paper I-bonds directly on your tax return using Form 8888 The second option is sometimes more reliable since you don't have to worry about account number formatting. The downside is you get actual paper bonds that you'd need to convert to electronic later if you want. Another thing to be aware of is that there's a $5,000 annual limit for I-bonds purchased with tax refunds, which is separate from the $10,000 annual limit for electronic I-bonds purchased directly through Treasury Direct. So you could potentially get $15,000 in I-bonds per year by using both methods!
Do paper I-bonds still exist? I thought Treasury phased those out years ago. And if I get paper bonds through my tax refund, how would I convert them to electronic later?
Paper I-bonds do still exist, but ONLY through the tax refund process. It's the only way to get them since Treasury Direct otherwise went fully electronic. To convert paper bonds to electronic, you'd use the Treasury Direct "SmartExchange" feature after creating an account. You fill out a form with your paper bond information, mail the bonds to Treasury, and they add them to your electronic account. It takes a few weeks for processing, but then you can manage them online like any other Treasury Direct holdings. Some people actually prefer this method since the paper bonds can be held for safekeeping and don't require online account access until you're ready to redeem them.
Sorry to hear about your issue! One little hack that saved me when I had a similar problem: if you can't get through to the IRS by phone, try contacting your local Taxpayer Advocate Service office. They're an independent organization within the IRS designed to help taxpayers with problems. I had a refund issue last year (not I-bonds but similar redirect problem) and the advocate was able to look up exactly what happened and explain it. They can often resolve issues faster than waiting for general IRS customer service. Google "Taxpayer Advocate Service" + your location to find the nearest office. They typically require that you've already tried normal channels first (which you have), so make sure to mention your failed attempts to contact the IRS directly.
Just a quick tip - make sure you're looking at Form 8880 (Credit for Qualified Retirement Savings Contributions) when you file. This is where you'll calculate your Savers Credit. I missed this form my first time around and lost out on about $400 in tax credits!
Thanks for the tip! Will I need any specific documentation from Fidelity if I make this IRA contribution now for last year? And should I reduce the contribution amount since we'll only get 10% back?
You don't need any special documentation from Fidelity for your tax return. When you make the contribution, just make sure you specify it's for the 2023 tax year. Fidelity will eventually send a Form 5498, but that usually comes after the tax filing deadline and isn't needed to claim the credit. As for reducing the contribution amount, I'd still recommend contributing the full amount to reach $2,000 total. Even though you're only getting 10% back as a direct credit ($200), remember that traditional IRA contributions also reduce your taxable income. So you're getting both the $200 credit AND the tax deduction on your contribution, which at your income level could save you another 22% or so in taxes on that money.
Has anyone else had to amend their return to claim this credit after realizing they missed it? I'm in that boat right now and wondering if it's worth the hassle for the 10% credit.
I amended last year for exactly this reason! It was a bit of paperwork but totally worth it in my case. Got back about $280 between the credit and the deduction on a $1,400 contribution. Just filed Form 1040-X with the corrected info and Form 8880 for the credit.
Thanks for sharing your experience! $280 back on $1,400 is pretty good. I think I'm gonna go ahead with the amendment. I hate leaving money on the table, even if it's just a couple hundred bucks.
Michael Green
If you don't want to deal with the stress of figuring out the right software, you can also check your local library! Many libraries partner with VITA (Volunteer Income Tax Assistance) and offer totally free tax prep help for simple returns. They can help with prior year returns too. My sister used them last year for her 2021 and 2022 taxes and said they were super helpful.
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Ryan Kim
ā¢Do you know if VITA can handle returns from 2022? And would they help even now since it's not tax season? I'd definitely prefer having someone knowledgeable walk me through it step by step.
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Michael Green
ā¢VITA can definitely handle 2022 returns. While many VITA sites operate primarily during the regular tax season (January through April), some locations offer year-round assistance specifically for prior year returns. Your best bet is to call your local library or search for "VITA tax sites" in your area to check availability. Even outside regular tax season, many VITA volunteers are willing to help with prior year returns because they understand situations like yours are common. Just be sure to bring all your documents (W-2s, identification, social security card) when you go. The service is completely free for basic returns, and they're specifically trained to help people who are filing for the first time or have simple tax situations.
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Mateo Silva
Has anyone tried Credit Karma Tax for back filing? I heard they got bought by Cash App but still offer free filing??
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Victoria Jones
ā¢Cash App Taxes (formerly Credit Karma Tax) is completely free for federal and state returns, but there's a catch for prior year returns. They typically only support the current tax year and maybe the year before. For 2022 returns in 2025, you'll probably need to use one of the IRS Free File options instead.
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