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I'm currently going through this same situation with my twin daughters' FAFSA applications. My husband and I separated 18 months ago and maintain completely separate households in different states. Reading through everyone's experiences here has been so reassuring! I wanted to add one thing that might help others - when I called my daughters' target schools directly to ask about this, three out of four financial aid offices immediately said "oh yes, that's a common question - just select 'no' for married and only include the contributing parent's information." The fourth school's rep wasn't as familiar but confirmed it after checking with their supervisor. It really seems like this is such a frequent issue that most financial aid professionals are well aware of how to handle separated parents. The FAFSA form itself is confusing, but the process is more straightforward than it appears. Thanks to everyone who shared their stories - it definitely helped me feel confident about moving forward with our applications!
That's such a smart approach - calling the schools directly! I hadn't thought to do that but it makes total sense. It's really reassuring to hear that the financial aid offices are familiar with this situation and can provide guidance. I was worried we might be in some kind of unusual gray area, but it sounds like separated parents dealing with FAFSA confusion is actually pretty common. Thanks for taking the time to share what you learned from those calls - that gives me a lot more confidence about our approach!
I'm dealing with this exact same situation right now! My ex-wife and I have been separated for about 4 years but never got around to filing for divorce. When I saw that married question on the FAFSA, I had the same panic moment - there's no "it's complicated" option! Reading through all these responses has been incredibly helpful. The consensus is clear: select "no" since you're living in separate households, and only the parent providing more support completes the form. I was worried about the legal technicality of still being married on paper, but it sounds like the FAFSA cares more about your actual living situation than your legal status. One thing that gives me confidence is seeing how many people have successfully navigated this exact scenario. It's reassuring to know that financial aid offices are familiar with separated parents and that this isn't some rare edge case that's going to cause problems. Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences - this thread should be pinned somewhere for all the other confused separated parents out there!
I completely agree - this thread has been a lifesaver! I was in the exact same boat when I started helping my daughter with her FAFSA. The "it's complicated" option would definitely make things clearer for everyone dealing with separation situations. It's amazing how many families are navigating this same confusing question. I feel so much more confident now knowing that selecting "no" and only including the contributing parent's information is the standard approach that financial aid offices expect. Hopefully the Department of Education will eventually update the form to better reflect modern family situations, but at least we know how to handle it correctly in the meantime!
As someone brand new to the Parent PLUS loan world, I'm incredibly grateful for all the detailed insights shared in this thread! My daughter will be starting college next fall and I honestly had no idea about most of these nuances - the origination fees, the disbursement timing, the importance of budgeting refunds, etc. Reading through everyone's experiences has been like getting a crash course in what to expect. I'm particularly interested in what Zoe mentioned about calling the financial aid office before applying. Can anyone share what specific questions I should ask them during that call? I want to make sure I'm fully prepared and don't miss any important details about their particular process. Also, for those who have been through multiple years of this - do you find it gets easier to manage once you understand the rhythm, or are there new challenges each year? Thanks to everyone who has been so generous with sharing their knowledge!
Great questions, Mei! When you call the financial aid office, here are some key things to ask: 1) Their exact disbursement timeline (how many days after classes start?), 2) How refunds are processed (check vs. direct deposit, timing), 3) Whether they allow increases to Parent PLUS amounts mid-year if costs exceed estimates, 4) Their specific COA breakdown for off-campus housing (and how realistic those estimates are for your area), 5) Any required forms for directing refunds to student vs. parent accounts. Also ask if they have any Parent PLUS informational sessions or resources specific to their school. As for it getting easier - definitely! Year two feels much smoother because you know the timeline and have a system in place. The main ongoing challenge is just making sure your child sticks to the budget since they get more comfortable managing the money. But having that first year experience really helps with planning!
As a newcomer to the Parent PLUS loan process, this thread has been absolutely incredible! My son will be starting college in the fall and I had so many of the same questions that have been asked here. Reading through everyone's experiences has given me a much clearer picture of what to expect. I'm especially grateful for the practical tips about calling the financial aid office ahead of time, keeping detailed records for taxes, and having a solid budgeting plan for those refund amounts. One thing I'm still curious about - for those who have their refunds sent to their student's account, have you found any good ways to monitor or track how the money is being spent without being too invasive? I want to make sure my son is being responsible with the funds but also respect his growing independence. Also, does anyone have experience with what happens if a student withdraws from classes mid-semester? I assume there are implications for the Parent PLUS loan that I should be aware of. Thank you all for creating such a supportive and informative discussion!
Great questions about monitoring spending and withdrawal implications! For tracking expenses without being invasive, many parents I know use a "monthly check-in" approach - having a brief conversation about how the semester budget is going rather than monitoring every transaction. Some families also use shared budgeting apps like YNAB or even a simple shared Google sheet where the student logs major expenses. This teaches financial responsibility while giving you peace of mind. Regarding mid-semester withdrawals - this is really important to understand! If a student withdraws, the school has to calculate how much of the disbursed federal aid (including Parent PLUS) was "earned" based on how much of the semester was completed. Any "unearned" portion has to be returned to the government, which could leave you owing money back to the school or having a larger loan balance than expected. The formula is complex, but generally if withdrawal happens before 60% of the semester is complete, some funds must be returned. Definitely something to discuss with financial aid if your son ever considers withdrawing!
ok that makes sense, i think i got cal grant B and she probably got cal grant A. but we have like almost identical family incomes so idk why she would get more money than me? is it based on grades or something?
Yes, Cal Grant eligibility types are determined by both financial need AND academic performance. Cal Grant A requires a minimum 3.0 high school GPA, while Cal Grant B requires a minimum 2.0 GPA. Cal Grant B is designed for students with higher financial need and perhaps slightly lower academic metrics. Even with similar family incomes, other factors in your FAFSA could have affected your eligibility determination - things like family size, number of family members in college, specific types of income, or assets reported. Also, the timing of when your GPA verification was received can sometimes affect which award you receive if funds are limited. If you believe there's been an error, you can request a review of your Cal Grant eligibility through your webgrants4students account or by contacting CSAC directly.
This is such valuable info! As someone who just submitted my FAFSA last month, I had no idea there were THREE separate systems to monitor. I've been obsessively checking my college portal waiting for my full aid package, but now I realize I should probably create a webgrants4students account ASAP. Quick question - do you need to wait for your FAFSA to be fully processed before you can see anything on webgrants, or can you check right away? Also, is there a specific deadline for confirming your school choice on the webgrants system? I'm worried I might miss something important!
This is such a helpful thread! I'm dealing with something similar but slightly different - my mom and stepdad have been together for 10+ years and live together but never officially got married. My stepdad has been supporting me financially though, so I'm wondering if I should include his information too even though he's not my biological parent? The FAFSA wording about "step-parents" is confusing when they're not legally married. Has anyone navigated this situation?
That's a tricky situation! From what I understand, for FAFSA purposes, a stepparent only counts if they're legally married to your biological parent. Since your mom and stepdad aren't legally married, he wouldn't be considered a stepparent on the FAFSA even if he's been supporting you. You'd only report your biological mom's information (and your biological father's if he's in the picture). But this kind of situation might be worth clarifying with your school's financial aid office since every family situation is unique!
I'm new to this community but wanted to share my experience since I just went through something very similar! My parents have been together for years but aren't married either. What really helped me was calling my school's financial aid office directly - they were so much more helpful than trying to navigate the FAFSA website alone. They confirmed that since your parents live together, you definitely need both of their information even though they're not married. The zero income thing for your mom is totally normal and shouldn't cause any major issues. Also, if you do get selected for verification (which honestly isn't that scary), just make sure you have copies of both parents' tax returns ready to go. The whole process seems overwhelming at first but once you understand the rules it makes more sense!
Micah Trail
I'm dealing with a similar situation right now! My FAFSA was submitted in early January and I just got the missing signature notification yesterday. Reading through these responses is really helpful - it sounds like the 10-14 day wait for the corrections portal is pretty standard this year. I had no idea about the SAI replacing the EFC either, so thanks to everyone sharing that info. Going to contact my college's financial aid office first thing Monday morning to let them know about the delay. This whole process has been so much more stressful than I expected!
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Nasira Ibanez
•I totally understand the stress! I'm in the same boat and just submitted my FAFSA in January too. It's really frustrating that the whole process has so many delays this year. From what I'm reading here, it sounds like most schools are being understanding about these federal processing issues, so hopefully contacting your financial aid office will give you some peace of mind. At least we know we're not alone in dealing with this - seems like a lot of people are having similar signature problems with the new system.
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Natasha Volkova
I'm going through the exact same thing right now! Got my missing signature notification 3 days ago after submitting in early January. Reading through everyone's experiences here is actually making me feel a lot better - at least I know what timeline to expect now. Planning to email my school's financial aid office tomorrow to give them a heads up about the delay. Has anyone here had success getting their school to extend priority deadlines because of these FAFSA processing issues? My deadline is coming up in about 3 weeks and I'm hoping that's enough time for everything to get sorted out.
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Ava Garcia
•Yes! I had a similar deadline concern and my school was really understanding when I explained the FAFSA processing delays. I emailed them with screenshots of my original submission date and the missing signature notification, and they gave me an automatic extension. From what I've seen in this thread and other posts, most schools are being flexible this year because these delays are so widespread. Three weeks should definitely be enough time based on everyone's experiences here - even in the worst case scenarios people are mentioning 14-16 days for corrections to open, then another week for reprocessing. You should be in good shape if you reach out to your financial aid office proactively!
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