One other important thing to know - you need to be unmarried when you apply for ex-spouse benefits. If you remarry, you generally can't collect on a former spouse's record unless your later marriage ends by death, divorce, or annulment. Also, claiming on your ex's record has no effect on what they receive. Some people worry about this, but your ex will never even know you've applied for benefits on their record.

Just wanted to add something that hasn't been mentioned yet - if you're eligible for benefits on multiple ex-spouses' records (if you had other marriages that lasted 10+ years), Social Security will automatically pay you the highest amount. You don't have to choose between them. Also, there's a little-known rule that if your ex-spouse dies, you may be eligible for survivor benefits instead of spousal benefits, which could be up to 100% of what they were receiving (compared to the 50% maximum for spousal benefits). Just something to keep in mind for future planning. The whole system is definitely confusing, but it sounds like you're in a good position with your 12-year marriage and your ex already collecting!

Just wanted to add another perspective - I'm a financial advisor and see these situations occasionally with clients. Beyond what others have mentioned, this could also be a State-administered supplement that gets processed through SSA. Some states have supplemental payment programs for Social Security recipients, and when someone dies, any unpaid amounts can be forwarded to next of kin. The 6-month delay often happens because these payments have to go through multiple agencies for processing and verification. Definitely get that written explanation from SSA as Ravi suggested - you'll want it for tax purposes too, since depending on what type of payment it is, it might be reportable income for your husband.

I went through something very similar when my grandmother passed last year. We received an unexpected check for $620 about 4 months after her death. It turned out to be a combination of her final month's benefit payment plus a small retroactive adjustment for a COLA increase that hadn't been properly applied to her account. What helped us was bringing the uncashed check directly to our local SSA office along with her death certificate and my dad's ID (as next of kin). They were able to pull up her payment history immediately and show us exactly what the payment represented. The staff there was much more helpful than trying to navigate the phone system. One thing I learned is that SSA has up to 2 years to make these kinds of posthumous adjustments, so the 6-month delay isn't necessarily unusual. They often discover calculation errors or missed payments during their routine account reviews after someone dies. Just make sure you keep good records of everything in case you need them for taxes next year!

You probably have already answered this, but I was married to my ex-husband for 35 years. We divorced, didn't marry anyone else, and then remarried each other again 3 years later. I was 57 when we remarried. When he dies, will I be able to claim widow's benefits on him as a second marriage even though we remarried before I was 60?

As a newcomer to this community, I wanted to thank everyone for this incredibly informative discussion! I'm currently going through my own Social Security planning and this thread has been more helpful than hours of trying to navigate the SSA website. What I find particularly valuable is seeing both the community knowledge and the official confirmation from SSA that Malik received. It really demonstrates how this forum can provide practical guidance while emphasizing the importance of getting official verification for individual situations. Isabella's detailed explanations about how marriage periods are evaluated separately were especially enlightening - I had no idea that each marriage to the same person could be considered independently for the 10-year rule. And Freya's real-world experience with almost the exact same situation provides such reassuring confirmation. For anyone else reading this thread later, it seems the key takeaways are: 1) Each marriage period stands on its own for the duration requirement, 2) You'll need all marriage certificates and divorce decrees when applying, and 3) Don't give up on getting through to SSA even if it takes multiple attempts. Thanks again to everyone who shared their knowledge and experiences!

Thank you everyone for the helpful responses! I've set up USPS Informed Delivery as suggested and will try using Claimyr to reach SSA by phone. It's disappointing that the online system doesn't show survivor benefits in 2025, but at least I know what to expect now. I'll make sure to watch my mail carefully and follow up if I don't hear anything in the next couple weeks.

I went through this same situation when my mom passed away two years ago. The lack of online tracking for survivor benefits is really frustrating, especially when you're already dealing with grief and paperwork. One thing that helped me was keeping a detailed log of every interaction - dates I called, reference numbers, what was discussed. When I finally got through to someone, having that information made the conversation much more productive. Also, if you have any local senior centers or AARP chapters nearby, they often have volunteers who are very knowledgeable about navigating SSA processes and can provide guidance. Hang in there - the process does eventually work out, it's just unfortunately slow and old-fashioned.

This is absolutely unacceptable and I'm so sorry you're dealing with this violation of your privacy! As someone new to this community, I'm shocked to learn that SSA employees would disclose such sensitive personal information to an ex-spouse. From what I'm reading in these responses, it sounds like you have strong grounds for filing complaints. The fact that they gave him your phone number and current location is particularly egregious - there's no legitimate reason for that information to be shared, especially given the potential safety concerns for people escaping abusive relationships. I hope the formal complaint process works out for you and that SSA takes this seriously. It's clear from other comments here that this isn't an isolated incident, which makes it even more important that you pursue this. Thank you for sharing your experience - it's helping others understand what could happen and how to protect themselves. Stay strong and don't let them brush this off as a "minor mistake" - what happened to you was a serious breach of federal privacy protections.

As someone new to this community, I'm absolutely horrified by what happened to you. The breach of your privacy is inexcusable, and I can't imagine how violated and unsafe you must feel having your ex-spouse suddenly contact you after 20+ years with your personal information. What strikes me most is the complete double standard - they wouldn't tell YOU basic information about your ex when you filed, citing privacy, but then they freely gave him detailed financial information AND your contact details? That's not just inconsistent policy application, it's potentially dangerous for people who may have fled abusive situations. I'm glad to see so many knowledgeable community members here giving you concrete steps to take. The suggestion to file with the Office of Inspector General seems crucial, and I hope you also consider the legal consultation route that was mentioned. This isn't just about your individual case - SSA needs to be held accountable for these systematic privacy violations that could put people in real danger. Thank you for sharing this experience. It's eye-opening for those of us who might assume our information would be protected. I hope you get the justice and resolution you deserve, and that your situation helps prevent this from happening to others.