Smart decision to take your time and research all your options! One more thing to consider - you might want to ask SSA about "deemed filing" rules when you meet with them. If you're eligible for both your own retirement benefit and divorced spouse benefits, there are some complex rules about how they handle the application that can affect your strategy. Also, keep in mind that even if your own benefit ends up being higher now, your ex's benefit might grow more over time if he continues working, so the comparison could change. Good luck with everything - you're asking all the right questions!

Just want to add one more important tip - when you do apply, make sure to ask specifically about "restricted application" strategies if you're eligible for both your own benefit and divorced spouse benefits. Also, if your ex-husband is significantly older than you and already receiving benefits, you might want to check if his benefit amount has increased due to delayed retirement credits (he gets 8% per year for each year he delays past full retirement age until age 70). This could make the divorced spouse benefit more attractive than it appears on paper. The SSA representatives don't always volunteer this information, so you have to ask directly. Document everything they tell you and get it in writing if possible - I've heard too many stories of people getting different answers from different representatives!

I'm 52 and this discussion has been absolutely invaluable for my future planning! Reading through everyone's experiences has really opened my eyes to how poorly the SSA communicates these critical timing details during the application process. The fact that so many people were blindsided by the "paid in arrears" system and had to scramble financially is really concerning. What strikes me most is how this affects people's ability to plan their retirement transition. When you're budgeting for medical expenses or basic living costs and expecting your Social Security to start right away, a 2-3 month delay can create serious financial stress. The stories shared here really highlight the human impact of bureaucratic inefficiency. I'm definitely taking all the advice to heart: building that 6-month expense buffer specifically for this transition period, applying 3-4 months before I actually need the income, and creating my SSA account well ahead of time. It's unfortunate that we have to rely on community wisdom to understand how the system really works, but I'm so grateful for everyone's willingness to share their experiences. This thread should honestly be pinned or featured somewhere - it contains more practical, actionable information than anything I've seen on the official SSA website. Thank you all for turning your frustrating experiences into learning opportunities for the rest of us!

I'm 48 and this thread has been absolutely incredible for my long-term planning! Reading through everyone's real experiences has completely changed how I'm thinking about Social Security timing and retirement preparation. The fact that so many people were shocked by the "paid in arrears" system and the 2+ month delays really shows how much the SSA fails to communicate these essential details during the application process. What really resonates with me is seeing how these timing issues created genuine financial hardship for people - having to take out loans, borrow from family, or scramble to cover essential expenses like medical bills. It's not just bureaucratic inconvenience; it's a real problem that affects people's quality of life during what should be their transition into retirement. Starting my planning now based on everyone's hard-learned lessons: I'm going to build a substantial "Social Security transition buffer" (sounds like 6+ months of expenses is the safe bet), plan to apply at least 3-4 months before I actually need the income to start, create my SSA account years in advance, and make sure I understand that birth date payment schedule. It's really unfortunate that we have to learn these critical details from community discussions rather than clear official guidance, but this collective wisdom is invaluable. Thank you to everyone who shared their experiences - you've probably prevented dozens of future retirees from facing the same stressful financial gaps. This thread should be required reading for anyone even thinking about Social Security!

Sorry for any confusion. This was an edit to update my situation. After posting, I realized I had written down the wrong time - my appointment was actually scheduled for 4:30pm, not 2:30pm! The SSA representative called right at 4:30 and was extremely helpful about my SSDI review. I feel so embarrassed about the mix-up, but at least everything went smoothly with the actual call.

Glad everything worked out in the end! These kinds of mix-ups happen more often than you'd think - I once showed up to a doctor's appointment a full day early because I misread my calendar. The important thing is that you got your call and it went smoothly. For anyone else reading this thread who might have similar scheduling confusion, it's always worth double-checking your appointment confirmation letter or email before panicking. SSA usually sends pretty clear documentation with the exact date and time.

I'm really sorry for your loss, Giovanni. This is such a difficult situation to navigate while you're grieving. From reading all these responses, it sounds like the consensus is that you should apply when you turn 60, even though the earnings test will significantly reduce what you receive initially. One thing I wanted to add that might be helpful - when you do apply, make sure to ask the SSA representative to explain both your widow benefit amount AND what your own retirement benefit would be at different claiming ages. Sometimes the SSA doesn't volunteer this comparison, but it's crucial for your long-term planning. Also, consider that your situation might change over the next few years. You mentioned you're 59 now, so you have about a year to think through your options. Maybe you'll want to reduce your work hours as you get closer to your own retirement, or maybe your financial needs will change. Having the widow benefits established gives you flexibility. The system is frustratingly complex, but it sounds like you're getting great advice here. Don't let the complexity discourage you from claiming what you're entitled to. Your husband paid into this system for decades, and these benefits are designed to help surviving spouses exactly like you.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Giovanni. This is an incredibly difficult situation to navigate while you're grieving, and I want to commend you for being proactive about understanding your options. Based on everything shared here, I'd strongly encourage you to apply for widow benefits when you turn 60, despite the earnings test reduction. Here's why: Even with your $68k salary, you'll likely receive something (probably $200-400/month based on similar situations shared here). More importantly, you'll be establishing your claim and starting the process that will benefit you significantly at your FRA. One practical tip: consider scheduling a consultation with a fee-only financial planner who specializes in Social Security strategies. They can run detailed projections comparing your widow benefit timeline with your own retirement benefit options. This might cost $200-500, but could save you thousands in the long run by optimizing your claiming strategy. Also, start documenting everything now - your marriage certificate, his Social Security records, death certificate copies. Having these organized will make the application process much smoother when you're ready. The system is complex and frankly not very intuitive, but you have good options available. Don't let the earnings test discourage you from claiming what your husband's contributions have earned for you both.

As a newcomer to this community, I want to add my voice to the overwhelming consensus here about switching to in-person appointments for CDRs. I've been reading through everyone's experiences and it's honestly shocking how consistently unreliable SSA's phone system has become. I'm scheduled for my own disability review in a few weeks and came here initially looking for general advice, but this thread has been a real wake-up call. The stories about missed calls, system glitches, and appointments vanishing from their records are terrifying when your entire livelihood depends on the review going smoothly. What really convinced me was seeing how even people with extensive SSA experience - benefits counselors, people who've dealt with multiple appointments - are all recommending in-person for anything as critical as a CDR. When the professionals are saying the phone system is too unreliable for disability reviews, that tells you everything you need to know. I'm calling tomorrow to switch my appointment to in-person. Yes, it's going to be more challenging with transportation and scheduling, but after reading about people walking out with documentation that their review was properly completed versus those left wondering if their case got lost in the system, it's not even a close decision. Thank you to everyone who shared their experiences here - you've probably saved me from a lot of stress and potential problems with my benefits. For anyone else still considering phone vs in-person for a CDR, the advice in this thread is crystal clear: don't risk it on their broken phone system.

As a newcomer to this community, I just want to echo what everyone else has been saying about switching to in-person appointments for CDRs. I'm facing my own continuing disability review next month and initially thought phone would be more convenient, but this entire thread has been incredibly eye-opening. The sheer volume of stories about missed calls, system failures, and appointments completely disappearing from SSA's records is honestly alarming. What really gets to me is reading about calls cutting out during the middle of explaining medical conditions - that's literally my worst nightmare when my benefits depend on this review going perfectly. I called this morning to switch my appointment to in-person after reading through everyone's experiences here. The scheduler was actually very understanding when I mentioned concerns about phone system reliability for disability reviews, which makes me think they're getting a lot of these requests lately. Thank you to everyone who took the time to share their real-world experiences - this thread has probably saved me from weeks of anxiety and potential problems. For anyone else still on the fence about phone vs in-person for a CDR, the consensus here is pretty overwhelming: your benefits are too important to risk on a system that seems to fail people this regularly.