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I went through something similar with my dad trying to claim me when I was living with and supported by my grandma. Here's what worked for us: 1) File your taxes properly (either independently or have your boyfriend claim you if he qualifies) 2) Do it EARLY - like as soon as you can in January 3) E-file if possible - paper filing takes forever to process 4) Keep ALL documentation showing your living situation and support My dad tried to claim me but since we had already filed correctly, his return got rejected automatically. When he tried to fight it, we had all our documentation ready. The key thing is filing BEFORE your mom can.
Thanks for the practical advice! When you say file early, do you mean we should literally try to file on the first day tax season opens? And what kind of documentation ended up being most helpful in your case?
Yes, I literally mean file as soon as the IRS starts accepting returns (usually late January). My dad always filed late, so by filing first, we put the burden of proof on him instead of us. It made a huge difference. The most helpful documentation was our lease showing my address, bank statements showing my grandma paying for utilities and groceries, medical bills she covered, and a letter from my doctor confirming my disability and living situation. Also super helpful was the documentation showing when my dad stopped being my disability payee - that was like a smoking gun proving he wasn't supporting me.
One thing nobody's mentioned - if your boyfriend claims you as a dependent, make sure he understands how it affects your healthcare coverage. When my partner claimed me as a dependent, it screwed up my Medicaid eligibility because they suddenly considered his income when determining my benefits. We had to do some serious paperwork to explain that while I was his tax dependent, I was still separate for healthcare purposes. Different states have different rules about this. Double-check with your local Medicaid office before changing anyone's tax filing status.
This is so important! My brother is disabled and when I claimed him as a dependent, he lost his prescription coverage and we ended up paying WAY more for his medications than we saved on taxes. Definitely check with Medicaid and any other benefits programs before changing tax arrangements.
Just to add some practical advice from someone who did a cost seg study last year on a similar sized commercial property: make sure you get multiple quotes! I was quoted between $4,500-$12,000 for basically the same service. Also, timing matters. If your building is still under construction, take LOTS of photos before walls get closed up. Document everything! My biggest regret was not having enough photos of the electrical, plumbing, and HVAC components before drywall went up. Those components can often be reclassified for faster depreciation, but without proper documentation, the cost seg engineers had to make conservative estimates.
Thanks for the practical advice! We're still at the stage where most of the walls are open, so I'll definitely start taking detailed photos of everything. Did you use a national cost seg company or a local firm? And roughly how much did you end up saving in first-year taxes compared to traditional depreciation?
I went with a regional firm that specialized in commercial properties in our area. They had good familiarity with local building codes and construction methods which actually helped identify more components for acceleration. In terms of tax savings, it was substantial. Our building cost about $400k (not including land), and the study identified roughly 28% of the costs that could be depreciated over 5, 7, or 15 years instead of 39 years. Combined with the bonus depreciation available that year, we were able to deduct about $115k in the first year instead of around $10k with straight-line depreciation. At our tax bracket, that translated to approximately $35,000 in actual tax savings the first year. Just remember those are deductions you're accelerating from future years, so it's mainly a timing benefit - but getting those savings upfront is extremely valuable, especially if you're reinvesting in your business.
I've done several cost seg studies on different properties. One thing nobody mentioned is that you can do a "look-back" study if you've already been depreciating the property using standard methods. You don't have to amend returns - you file Form 3115 (Change in Accounting Method) and take what's called a "catch-up" deduction for the accumulated difference all in one year.
That's super helpful! So if I've owned a commercial building for say 3 years already, I could still do a cost seg study now and catch up on the accelerated depreciation I could have been taking?
Another option that nobody's mentioned: ACH transfers. Most banks offer free ACH transfers to external accounts. Takes 1-3 business days but doesn't cost anything. You just need to link the accounts once by verifying small deposits. I use this for moving larger amounts between my accounts at different banks.
Does ACH have transfer limits too? That's my main issue with Zelle, I keep hitting the daily and monthly caps.
ACH transfers do have limits, but they're typically much higher than Zelle limits. Most banks allow anywhere from $25,000 to $100,000 per day for ACH transfers, and sometimes even more for monthly totals. The exact limits depend on your specific bank and sometimes your account history/standing with them. You can usually find these limits in your online banking settings or by calling customer service directly. ACH is designed for larger transfers, so it's usually better for moving significant amounts compared to person-to-person payment apps.
Just be careful with the timing if you go the friend route! I did this last year with about $8k, and my friend's account got temporarily frozen because Venmo thought it was suspicious activity. It took her 3 days to get it unfrozen, and she was PISSED at me. Maybe do smaller amounts spread out if you go this route.
You might want to look at your pay stubs more carefully. Is it possible those two checks where they took out taxes had something different about them? Maybe you worked overtime those weeks or got a small bonus that pushed you into a withholding threshold? I've seen weird things happen with payroll systems where they only start withholding once you hit certain YTD earnings.
I double-checked all my stubs and there's nothing different about those two checks compared to the others. No overtime, no bonuses, no change in hours or rate. All my checks were between $1190-$1230 gross, and only those random two had any federal withholding. The rest had $0 for federal. That's what makes it so confusing!
That is really strange then. Definitely sounds like a system glitch. One other thing to check - did your employer possibly switch payroll systems or providers around that time? Sometimes during transitions between systems, weird one-off errors happen. Also, you mentioned Married Filing Jointly with 0 exemptions - just to clarify, are you using the newer W-4 form (2020 or later) that doesn't have exemptions anymore, or an older version? Some payroll systems got really buggy during that transition.
I think some ppl are overlooking the most important part - ur gonna owe $$$ at tax time if they haven't been withholding all year!!! My husband had this happen 2 years ago and we got hit with a $3500 bill and a penalty for underwithholding. U need to fill out a new W-4 ASAP and have them take extra out of ur remaining checks this year to catch up!!!
This is important advice. You can ask your employer to withhold a specific additional dollar amount on your remaining paychecks. Figure out roughly how much federal tax you should have paid YTD, subtract what's been withheld so far, and divide by remaining pay periods this year. Put that as an "extra withholding" amount on a new W-4.
Anastasia Sokolov
One thing nobody has mentioned yet - check if your area offers any homeowner exemptions you might qualify for! Many counties have: - Homestead exemptions (for primary residences) - Senior citizen exemptions (if you're over 65) - Veteran exemptions - Disability exemptions We bought in 2022 also and didn't realize we needed to apply for the homestead exemption - it doesn't happen automatically! When we finally applied, it knocked $1500 off our annual bill. Deadlines vary by location but many counties have April 1st deadlines for the following tax year.
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Malik Johnson
ā¢I had no idea about these exemptions! We definitely qualify for the homestead one since this is our primary residence. Do these typically have income limits or other requirements? Also, can I apply for 2023 taxes still or would it only affect 2024?
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Anastasia Sokolov
ā¢Most homestead exemptions don't have income limits - they simply require that the home is your primary residence (usually you can only claim one homestead exemption in a state). Some states do offer additional income-based exemptions on top of the standard homestead benefit. For 2023 taxes, it depends on your county. Some allow retroactive applications while others don't. Many counties allow you to apply for the current tax year up until their deadline (often in spring). I'd call your assessor's office ASAP and ask if you can still apply for 2023. If not, definitely get your application in for 2024. Even if you've missed the window for this year, getting it set up for next year is still worthwhile - these exemptions typically remain in place automatically for future years once approved.
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Sean O'Connor
Has anyone successfully appealed their assessment without using one of these services? I feel like the county is just going to reject whatever I submit cause they want the tax money.
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Zara Ahmed
ā¢I've done it twice in the last 5 years without any special service. First time I just submitted photos showing problems with my property (cracked foundation, water damage in basement) and they reduced my assessment by 8%. Second time I printed out assessment values for 6 similar homes in my neighborhood that were valued lower, and they reduced mine by 12%. The key is documentation and being polite but persistent. The assessor's office isn't personally trying to get more tax money - they're just following their procedures and often working with outdated or incomplete info. If you provide better data, many will adjust accordingly.
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Sean O'Connor
ā¢That's really helpful to know, thanks! Did you have to attend a hearing or was it all done through paperwork? I'm nervous about having to present my case in person to some board.
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